As I have been looking at gender — primarily masculinity — and addiction off and on for more than a decade and a half, I have arrived at some nascent ideas that I am sure are not original but are compelling nonetheless. In essence, something happens through the process of recovery to us as men [...]

What Makes Boys Afraid to Talk about Sexual Abuse? Boys are under the assumption that they should be able to protect themselves. If someone takes advantage of them, they feel it is their own fault, that they should have been stronger. Boys feel they won’t be believed, especially if a woman perpetrated the abuse. Boys [...]

What can a story about one particular parasite tell anyone — especially  someone sitting in a spirituality group with just a few days of recovery— about Higher Power, spirituality, God?  If a tiny parasite could potentially reach someone with a message about a Universal Intelligence, would men and women in the same situation respond to [...]

The statistics are striking. According to the National Survey on Drug Use and Health, an estimated 7.4 million women in the United States, ages 12 and older, are substance abusers who need help. Even more startling is the fact that more than 90 percent of these women wonʹt receive the care they need. Some have [...]

Many straight therapists who say they are “gay affirmative” mean that they are gay positive or gay friendly. They tell lesbian and gay clients things like, “I’m open-minded” and “People are people.” These well-intentioned therapists are, indeed, accepting and pro-gay—but they’re also uninformed. Even lesbian and gay therapists may be uninformed. Over the years, I’ve [...]

Happy New Year fellow colleagues! I don’t know about you, but I tend to be reflective during the time of one year ending and another beginning.  I consider areas of my life and ways I can continue to move forward and stay true to who I am, why I am here, and what I do. [...]