“Sooner or later we must give up all hope of a better yesterday.” Ashley Brilliant wrote that, but I wish I had,because it says so perfectly what I want to write to you. I have such sorrow that we, your parents, failed you. When you were growing up, one of us was alcoholic and the [...]

The stories of ACOA parents struggling to do a good job of raising their children provoke thoughts of what happened in their childhoods.  What would have made a difference in that original family? A successful intervention with the alcoholic is an obvious choice, but in addition the sober parent can make an enormous difference in [...]

The sun manages to come up without your help. Therapy finally kicks in. You can stop apologizing for what someone else did. Other people can solve their own problems…or not. You really know you didn’t cause it. The statute of limitation has expired on your mistakes. You let other people be wrong  — even though [...]