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A New Look at the Origins of Addiction

Monday, September 12, 2016,
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Where does addiction come from? The answer has deep implications for treatment, obviously. It's my belief that addiction is learned, which means it can be unlearned.

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La Escaramuza Familiar: La Realidad Diaria de la Familia Adictiva

Saturday, December 19, 2015,
Categories: Family System
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Al trabajar con la familia adictiva por muchos años he encontrado que hay siete realidades importantes que afectan la recuperación de la familia. Una de esas realidades es lo que llamo la

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Enable-ism

Saturday, December 19, 2015,
Categories: Family System
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A pattern that often forms within a family system that has an addict is the desire to do for someone things that they could, and should be doing themselves; this pattern is called enable-ISM

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The Family Scrimmage: The Daily Reality of the Addictive Family

Tuesday, May 5, 2015,
Categories: Family System
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Working with addictive family’s for many years I have found that there are seven major realities that impact the family’s recovery. One of those realities is what I call the family scrimmage. I choose the word scrimmage to describe the daily reality of the addictive family because the word scrimmage, which is usually associated with football or some sport practice, is a word that accurately describes the addictive family reality. The word scrimmage originated in England in the late 1400s and literally means, “A rough and vigorous struggle that can lead to a bloody battle.”  In the addictive family there is always a daily rough and vigorous struggle when alcoholism or drug addiction exists. It is a fierce daily combat. People who have grown up in an addictive family understand the intensity of this daily struggle but not always the severity of it.

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Becoming Soul Mates and The Impact of Addiction

Monday, January 12, 2015,
Categories: Family System
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People often say, I married my Soul Mate. But, the fact is that no one marries their Soul Mate. Couples become Soul Mates after sharing their lives together through good and bad times. They eventually reach a point in their relationship when they are two bodies but one mind and one Soul.  

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The Making of an ACoA: Living Behind a Mask

Monday, April 7, 2014,
Author: Anonym
Categories: Family System
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Living in an alcoholic family system is like driving at night without your headlights on – you are always squinting to see a little better, wondering what lies ahead in the road or what might jump out at you from behind the bushes. Visit the living room of the average family that is living with – or should I say living in – addiction and you are likely to find a family that is clinging to its own emotional edges, one that’s functioning in emotional, psychological and behavioral extremes.

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Stronger In the Broken Places

Friday, December 6, 2013,
Categories: Family System
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In society today, the word “addiction” often creates an image of a person falling down and slobbering drunk. Perhaps a man or woman who is unkempt and behaving deliriously, swaying and staggering from the overuse of drugs or alcohol.

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Speaking Out

Wednesday, September 18, 2013,
Author: Anonym
Categories: Family System
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There has been a sea change in the way Americans believe policy makers should be addressing addiction issues.

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To Raise Our Children, We Must First Raise Ourselves

Wednesday, September 18, 2013,
Author: Anonym
Categories: Family System
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We’ve heard the quote before: “what a man thinketh, a man does; what he does, he becomes…” When I  understood the importance of being a good example for my children,

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Dear Children

Monday, September 16, 2013,
Author: Anonym
Categories: Family System
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“Sooner or later we must give up all hope of a better yesterday.” Ashley Brilliant wrote that, but I wish I had,because it says so perfectly what I want to write to you.

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