One Year of Sobriety
Written By: Haven House Sober Living Date: June 22nd, 2009. Topic: Member Blogs.
Living here at the Haven House for the last 5 months and having a year of sobriety as of a couple weeks ago, I figure out that I still get to acquire many learning lessons here at the house. Lately I have been upset that I have been feeling like I pull more weight around the house then my house mates. I realize that sometimes this might be true, but a lot of the times I am just as guilty as they are. My character defects pour out when I get into a place of blame and judgment. I begin to expect that my housemates should be reading my mind to know that I would wish they would work harder to keep the house clean. But as my sponsor always tells me, expectations are pre-meditated resentments. I have an extreme fear of confrontation and I begin to see that if I simply asked or informed the people around me that I wish they would work harder to keep the house clean they would probably respond to my requests. Again though, I am just as guilty as they are. Just because some days I work harder at making sure my chores are done does not mean that I do so every day. There are days when I don’t want to do any chores because I had a hard day at school or a busy week and I am sure that this is the case with my housemates some days. Because of this program I get to write down these resentments and realize that I am being judgmental, egotistical, and having unrealistic expectations. These are great life lessons for me to learn on a continual basis about myself. This is another reason why I like living here at the Haven House so much. These lessons are important practice for when I move out and live with roommates again. I can’t always expect to have people read my mind. I get to practice speaking my mind now, expressing my feelings. As cheesy as it sounds, and I hate this saying. When you point your finger at someone there are three pointing back at yourself.
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